THOUGHTS FOR THE NEW YEAR

Christmas 2008 has come and gone and now we await the arrival of 2009. Yesterday as I was leaving my Chiropractor’s office I stood chatting with the girl at the front desk. I told her I was excited about beginning 2009 feeling good and on the right track. She smiled and said “My friends have told me each year for the last 10 years that the next year would be better for me, and as of yet it has not happened”. I told her that the trick to it being a better year is that she needs to believe it is going to be a better year.

That got me thinking or pondering as it were; if we don’t believe things are going to get better, will they? I am absolutely certain that things could always be worse if we choose them to be. Think about it for a minute, if we choose to complain about the bad in our life, would it not be just as easy to choose to celebrate the good?

Another friend told me this morning that except for the fact that her beloved Grandmother passed away this year she had the most blessed year ever. A year ago this time she was having a tumor removed from her brain; this leaves her with bouts of headaches and the inability to sleep lying on that side of her body. In spite of it, she feels blessed. It would be just as easy to talk about what she can’t do as it is to celebrate her blessed life.

I could not help but contrast the two conversations a mere 12 hours apart. I am by nature a positive person, this is a conscious choice. I remember once when I was at a particularly low point in my life having a conversation with my Aunt about something and she said “You are always so cheery and happy, even with all the adversity you have faced you are still cheerful.” At the time I thought “Are you freakin’ kidding me?” Now I look back and see that though things were indeed less than perfect, I consciously tried to focus on the good. As a matter of fact, I remember being grateful for all the good in my life, even as things fell apart.

I often think about those times and how I survived them; I believe my underlying emotion was a belief that life would get better. They did not get better on their own mind you, I had to put forth blood, sweat and tears, but deep down I always believed that something better was around the corner. This is not to say I did not have those moments when I felt hopeless and shared it with those around me. But I do know that those moments never lasted for long.

So I have to ask myself: is my positive attitude because I believe or did I believe because I chose to have a positive attitude? Many, many, many (and did I say many?) negative people have crossed my path in my life time and I often think to myself; do these people know how special they are? Do these people know how blessed and loved they are? These same people would tell me that I simply don’t know what I am talking about. I can say with all honesty that I do indeed know what I am talking about. These same people would tell me that it does not matter what they do because everything turns to crap anyway. I say to these people “Do you truly believe that life can be more than the crap you are use to, or are those simply words, and believe in you heart that things indeed will turn to crap?”

Believing is an emotion. You need to feel the believing. It is that emotion that sends the vibration of belief out in to the universe. The universe and the divine are more than happy to provide what ever and I do mean WHATEVER we want. Be it good or bad the universe will provide what we ask for. If we ask for crap, crap is what we shall get.

It has taken me years to finally get it; “it” being the emotion that stirs the vibration, and the vibration that shall be answered. How many of us say “I want to win the lottery?” We say it, we use the words, but do we feel it? The odds are that they are simply words, with no real emotion behind it. How many of us say something over and over again with angry emotion and are surprised to find that what ever it was is exactly what we got? A friend once told me “Emotion is God’s doorbell”. How true those words are.

If we dwell in negativity, we will receive negativity. If we dwell in the positive, we will receive positive. I am learning this right along with everyone else. I by no means have an unshakable handle on this. However, I know from past experience that holding on to the negative only brought me more negative. Believing that all would be well, always, without exception brought well being.

How many of us wake up in the morning and thank God for another blessed day? If we do not believe, can we truly be grateful? If we believe that the world is out to get us, how then can we feel blessed? Take a moment and think of all the things that are good in your life, then take a moment to feel the emotion that goes along with that. That emotion is a positive vibration, with that positive vibration comes a feeling of well being. If you choose to think of all the bad things in your life, you will experience a negative emotion and, in turn, negative vibrations and a sense of hopelessness. You don’t have to take my word for it, try it for yourself. Practice feeling the words you say, get in touch with what emotions are present when you are down and when you are up. If it is negativity you are experiencing take the steps to change them.

In many of my counseling sessions I encourage my clients to write down their emotions and then put a word to it that describes their state of mind at that very moment. I don’t just mean negative emotions but positive ones as well. Learn to decipher the difference between the two, and then when a negative emotion arises, take a step back and open up a space between you and that emotion. Then you can choose at that very moment to reframe it in to something more positive.

My husband and I choose to say “I choose not to spend my money on ________right now, I can afford anything I want, and I just choose not to spend it on _______at this time”. Instead of saying “I can not afford that, I am broke”. By doing this we take the can not and reframe it in to a can.

I know none of this is easy, especially when things around you seem bleak, but your world survives within you. It is within your power to choose how you react to things. You can choose to see the bad in everything or see the good in everything. You can choose to speak negatively or speak positively. The effort is the same. By changing a few simple words in your every day vocabulary, you can literally change a negative to a positive.

So this year when making your New Year’s resolution, believe what you are committing to, feel what you are committing to, let that resolution bring forth an emotion that will ultimately raise your vibration and bring to you what you want. Remember if you make a resolution by saying it and not feeling it, then you can’t possibly believe it. Let this be the year that things go your way no matter what is happening around you.

The first step to change is to believe it is possible. You have the power within you. Make the choice for you future be yours.

May everyone have a happy and safe New Year and my all your dreams come true.

Love, Light and Angel Blessing
Theri

TIRED!

For a couple of weeks now my motivation level has been next to nil. I am literally not motivated by anything at all. I can't get motivated to diet, exercise, decorate the house for Christmas, Christmas shop, read a book, learn anything, meditate or even grocery shop. I can't get motivated to do much of anything other than to get out of bed and go to work. For those who know me, you know that I am not an unmotivated individual, so this lack of motivation has sent ripples of guilt right through the stratosphere for me.

As the days pass and the guilt builds up, I am forced to figure out this conundrum I am in. This morning I was telling my husband on the way to work that I am so “tired”. I am tired mentally, physically, and emotionally. I feel like I could sleep for a week. Is there any rhyme or reason for this? I wish I knew. Off the top I would say no. Life is good, I have a great life, a great husband, great kids, a good job and supportive friends. Yet, I am indeed tired.

One thing I have noticed that sticks out like a sore thumb for me is that I have not pondered in quite some time. I am big on pondering; I would even go so far as to say that a lot of my motivation comes from pondering. So why have I not pondered? Because I am tired! Yes, it does indeed sound like a vicious cycle.

Thus, my journey to figure this out begins. As always I first ask my Angels; either they are not talking, or I am not hearing; I suspect the latter. That is not to say that my Angels have not been chatty, just chatty for everyone else. I just don't feel like I have been given any insight to my current situation. Next I ask for a dream that may offer some insight. I asked for dreams, and dreams I got. However, none of them seemed to offer any assistance. That is until I put pen to paper.

Dream #1: I was in a very large arena or round theatre much like an amphitheater; I was inside but outside was a hurricane. I knew that my parents had Garrett, who was still a baby, and I knew I needed to get them in to the amphitheater where it was safe. I went out in to the hurricane to get them, I found them at a house I did not recognize, and they were all in bed sleeping. I asked them why they were there instead of the amphitheater. My Mom lifted Garrett up to hand him to me, just then the hurricane blew the house off its foundation. I was then back in the amphitheater and there were dead celebrities just mulling around. I don't know if I was dead as well, but I could see them. (I know nothing strange about that.) Soon guys with some type of noxious gas were walking around randomly choosing already dead celebrities to gas, which oddly enough killed them again. Then they walked up to me and sprayed it on me, I saw a flash of white light and fell to the ground. I could hear footsteps running toward me, It was Garrett, he picked me up (now I knew I was dreaming) and moved me away from the gas. I told him that they had gassed me; he said not to worry about it because he got there in time.

Dream #2: I was in a doctor's office exam room getting my blood pressure taken. The nurse taking my blood pressure insisted on using a child’s blood pressure cuff. I told her she needed to use the adult one but she did not listen. When she got the results she said “Oh, I must have made a mistake.” I told her, “Of course you did, you used the wrong cuff.” She said I would have to have it redone, and I was to wait in the waiting room. Ted and Garrett were waiting with me; I was irritated because I did not think I should have to wait because it was not my mistake. I knew Ted had a 2:00 appointment with someone, so I knew this was taking too much time. At 1:10 the nurse came out and told me it would be another 20 minutes. I got angry and told the nurse that I should not have to wait since she made the mistake and that if it was going to be another 20 minutes I would need to reschedule. She grabbed my chart and circled the number 198, next to my blood pressure reading and wrote “counseling” next to it. When we were leaving, I looked at the clock, and it was 1:31.

Dream #3: I was standing in the ER that the show ER is filmed in. Nila, who is one of the doctors on the show, was walking around asking for food. She was very, very hungry and for some reason did not have money to buy food. Then she was standing in a room and on a bed stood the most impeccably groomed goat, I had ever seen. Nila, was staring at the goat deciding whether she should kill the goat and eat it because she was so hungry.

And I wonder why I am tired! Good Lord, how much rest am I actually getting?

I will spare you the dissecting of each dream and simply give you what a friend of mine (Thank you, Diana) came up with, and after pondering it, it feels right.

I believe the dreams were telling me: Warning!!! You need rest, to take care of MY needs and to be compassionate towards myself. If I keep taking (voraciously) from myself and entire being, something negative will fatally consume me.

So basically, in a nutshell, stop feeling guilty, let yourself off the hook and just rest, is the gist of it LOL! I lost a night’s rest so they could tell me to rest? Criminy!!!

But as my friend pointed out, would I have gotten the message had I not had the dream or for that matter three in a row, all completely different but pointing to the same thing; most likely not.

I know it seems like a whole lot of dreaming for such a small amount of information. You see my Angels have a terrific sense of humor, and they know that I am going to analyze the heck out of whatever they give me, so as a rule they will give me more than what is probably necessary.

As I am sure you have guessed by now, reading for someone else is so much easier than doing it for me.

I read the first edition of Wings; (www.whatsuponplanetearth.com), and it seems I am not the only going through this need for rest. She writes “The first phase is now complete. We have taken things as far as they can go. We have infused our light, our energy, and much else of ourselves into an old world and brought it up to a very new level. We are now done”.

With that said I guess it is okay to be tired, a lot of work has been done; we have shed most of the old, even if we were not aware of it. A new day is dawning, one of much love and happiness. I just hope I am not too tired to enjoy it.

I welcome any other interpretations of my dreams, so feel free to write me and let me know your thoughts.

Love. Light and Angel Blessings
Theri

An after thought: In Doreen Virtue’s book, Angel Numbers; the numbers in my dream are significant as the following:

2:00 or 200 –Your faith has brought you to a powerful and divine connection with God. Your faith is well founded, and you’re working in partnership with the Creator.

198 –Dive right into your life purpose without delay or hesitation. Take divinely guided action first, and you’ll find that financial support is always there.

1:10 or 110 –Keep thoughts focused upon God and divine love, as you’re creating your reality with your thoughts and beliefs. Engage in creative activities.

20 –The creator asks you to have faith. Even if you can’t see the results of your prayers and actions right now, trust that they’re bearing wonderful fruit for you.

I have not pondered the meaning of these numbers or how they weave in to my dreams, but thought I would share anyway.