My husband and I were having a conversation the other day regarding one of our friends. She has just recently purchased a flower shop; she is without a doubt going to make this flower shop very, very successful. It was on our way home from the flower shop that we began discussing what a wonderful thing this is for her. One of the things we talked about was how sincerely kind she is to people, and how she genuinely, without expecting anything in return, goes out of her way for people.
Our friendship began when she became our realtor while searching for a home in Minnesota. The way we actually contacted each other, as is my life, one of those things that was simply meant to be. I had called my sister who already lives in Minnesota and asked her if she could recommend a good realtor to us. She said she would check and get back to us. As luck would have it, our friend actually walked into the store that my sister manages and struck up a conversation that very day; she mentioned she was a realtor and the rest is history. It did not take long for us to realize that she most definitely knew her stuff. She simply has an air about her that is kind and honest that was truly appealing to us. I guess the point I am trying to make here is that good things really do happen to good people.
Our friend is truly the real deal when it comes to sincerely paying it forward. The real-estate business, as everyone knows, has sucked for quite some time now, however our friend continues to treat her customers the same in the recessed market as she did in the booming market. We were the recipients of her quality when we bought our house. We signed the papers in June of 2005 but did not actually move in until July 30, 2005. During that one month interval our friend anticipated our every need, she over saw the cleaning of the house and carpets, she brought our mail in, she made sure our grass was taken care of, her husband (who is every bit as kind and sincere as she is, just a little shout out to you Pat!) came over and did some electrical that needed to be done, dead bolts were fixed, shelves were put up in closets that had been taken down when the previous owners vacated, they even power washed the out side of the house for us. When we arrived there were snacks and sodas in the fridge and flowers on a beautiful table she had given us as a house warming gift. There were fire extinguishers and extra light bulbs in the wash room. She knew we would be weary from our travels and because it is her nature to help, she did so, thus making our transition painless.
It is this kind of treatment toward the people that she comes in contact with that allowed the flower shop opportunity to come about. Not because she had been in the market for it, but because I believe the universe paid it forward because she unselfishly pays it forward everyday without giving it a thought.
My husband and I mused over this because in the world today it is so easy to shelter yourself, as to not see what the world has to offer. It is all too easy to believe that everyone is out for themselves and would sooner walk over you than help you up. But it is people like our friend (and I keep saying friend instead of her name, because I know that this type of recognition, though true, would make her very uncomfortable) that make the world a better place. It is through these selfless acts of kindness that allow me personally to see the glass as half full instead of half empty. It is because of people like her that make me believe that the evil out in the world can be won over by love and sincerity. It is because of people like her that make me want to be a better person, to reflect my sincerity out in to the world as to be a mirror to those who are struggling to see the beauty and kindness in life.
In her shop, she had (had, because a friend bought it for me) a plaque that says, “The best things in life are not things”. Kindness is not a thing, sincerity is not a thing, love is not a thing, caring is not a thing. These are attributes that we all possess, without them the world becomes bleak and scary. Unfortunately, some people have buried these purest of qualities. But it is because of people like our friend that we know it does indeed still exist. For that we are genuinely thankful.
I, for one, believe that paying it forward does indeed pay off – in ways you could never imagine.
Saturday, May 31, 2008
“What part of your life is unknowingly being affected by unresolved anger?”
Earlier today a friend and I were having a conversation regarding an old boyfriend of hers. She talked about an event that took place that ended their relationship. She had been cleaning out some stuff that had been piling up in her basement and just happened to come across a picture of the two them together. She mused about the fact that periodically he showed up in her dreams. She really could not recount what his role in the dream was only that he was in it. She asked me what it meant when someone from your past keeps showing up in your dreams.
Now remember at this point I am still in friend mode and trying very hard not to drop into healing coach mode. The friend in me was appalled at this guys behavior, the healing coach in me immediately began to ponder.
The psyche is an amazing thing; think of your brain as a room full of filing cabinets. Each filing cabinet has folders and inside those folders are other folders and so on. Each and every event in your life is filed in to one of those filing folders. It could be in the main file folder or it could be in a sub-folder of a sub-folder of a sub-folder. While these events are dropping in to their files the mind can delete them (stuff them in a file and lock it) it can distort them (Make them seem less than or more than the event really was) and it can generalize them (as to make them just part of everyday life). These are called filters; some of these events will be happy, some of them will be sad and some of them will be traumatic or what your filter system perceived as traumatic. Some of these sad and traumatic events dropped into your file folders before they were dealt with. Eventually, without exception these file folders will get opened, yes even the ones or rather especially the ones that you locked up and buried the key. Something totally innocent can trigger the folder to open or a like event can trigger it to open, but it will open. It could be 2 days, 2 weeks, 2 months, 2 years or 2 decades, but since the event was filed away without resolution or healing, it will force its way to the surface when you least expect it. While working itself to the surface it can manifest itself into a physical aliment, a value, a belief, an emotion or a behavior until it is recognized and dealt with.
One opinion (mine), is in my friends case I believe (and please remember this is my opinion only) that because this event had no resolution and was filed away as a form of protection, he keeps popping up in her dreams because it is in some way, big or small, affecting her life today. Your unconscious mind will protect you at all cost, it will only give you what it knows you can handle. In her case, (I believe) her unconscious mind has allowed this guy to show up in her dreams because it was a safe outlet in which to do so. It allowed her to remember, if just for an instant, the hurt that was brought on by this event that simply was not resolved.
A traditional dream interpretation could be that there is something from her past that is bothering her. The first thing I would ask a person if I were analyzing their dream would be; “what is the first thing you think of when I say (blank)”, when I asked her this question her response was “he is an ass”. Then I would go on to ask her about the other things in her dream that she remembered, i.e. who else was in the dream, where were you, what were you doing, were there any colors that you remember, etc. None of these were relevant because she really had no specifics. Because of her body language and the fact that I had that angelic voice in my ear telling me that this was an unresolved issue, I did not go the dream analysis route.
As I said, while we sat there and talked I watched her body language. It was evident that mentioning this guy caused anger, hurt, irritation etc. I asked her if she felt that particular event in her life had resolution. She thought about it for a moment and said that it would be nice to know why he did what he did. Because this is a dear friend of mine I will not go in to details; but because I know what I know, I can clearly see how this event in her very young life plays a part in her emotional behavior today.
This of course led me to this blog, asking the question “What part of your life is unknowingly being affected by unresolved anger?” Personally, many, many times I have had to do a process I learned in school known as Hoponopono (a healing process) to deal with unresolved issues that have peppered my life. But how many unknown ones are lurking under the surface? If you read the blog just before this one you will quickly deduct that I am a work in progress.
I of course suggested to my friend that she make a scheduled appointment with me so that she can safely and swiftly heal this wound that she has carried around for the last 14 years. But how many of us deal with things on a daily basis that seem to have no rhyme or reason? How many of us are given a nudge to uncover that which is playing a negative role in our life and just ignore it? Big or small will we recognize it when we see it?
I read a statistic somewhere that said that 85% of the patients in hospitals have ailments brought on by some sort of emotional upheaval that manifested itself in to disease. That is a staggering statistic; of course it is only staggering if you chose to believe it. If that is true, were there signs, nudges and corrections that could have been made prior to that moment it became a disease, before it manifested itself into a physiological ailment, a belief, a value, a behavior or negative emotion?
These are things I ponder on this journey of mine. I ask that the next time you feel the nudge, see the signs, dream the dream or ponder why something is affecting you in a negative way, ask yourself “Is this connected to an event in my life that did not have a resolution”? Remember, your unconscious mind knows all and it will answer you if you just take the time to listen. Hint: if you have to think about it, it is your conscious mind; if the answer is immediate with no thinking involved, it is your unconscious mind answering you. Listen to it and take action, it just might be the difference between being happy and being really happy.
Love, Light and Angel Blessings
Theri
Thursday, May 29, 2008
How much weight should emotion carry?
Recently I have been thinking a lot about weight issues. My weight issues to be exact. I had a dream the other night. I was being told that there are two reasons I am overweight. Yes I have extremely clear and to the point dreams sometimes, which is much better than the ones I need to de-code. I was told that the first reason is because I feel like I am never enough and the second reason is because I feel invisible. She told me that because I feel like I am never enough I feel the need to be more, and because I feel invisible I feel the need to make myself be seen. Needless to say I woke up disturbed and immediately pooh poohed the idea. Of course it did not take long before I began to process the information I was given in my dream.
First I had to ponder the idea that I felt like I was never enough. I had to dig and figure out why that particular emotion would be residing within my psyche. I have never been one to willingly go digging deep inside my psyche, preferring to clear this kind of stuff unconsciously. I discovered much to my amazement that there were indeed times in my life that I felt like I was not enough. Whether it was because I was not thin enough, pretty enough or woman enough, I have allowed the men in my life, with the exception of my unconditionally loving husband make me feel like I simply was not enough. I absolutely believe that it was not always intentional. I remember very clearly one day I was getting ready to go out, I could not have been more than 16 years old and as is my life I had been dieting. My Dad who was one of the kindest, sweetest men ever to grace the planet was passing by my room, he poked his head in and said "Wow if you lose any more weight I am not going to let you out of the house". The adult me knows without question that he was simply giving me a compliment, his way of telling me I looked nice. What I heard was "Wow, if you lose any more weight I won't be able to let you out of the house....because then someone might look at you", in my mind he meant that it was safe for me to go out that night because no one would look at me because I was fat.
Whether it was because I was not thin enough, pretty enough or woman enough I simply allowed men to make me feel less than. The men that I had relationships with felt it necessary to express their feelings regarding what they perceived were my inadequacies. I believe it began with my older brother who stood by and said nothing when his friends made fun of the fact that I was big busted, not petite and in high school kind of goofy. This, of course, instilled the belief in me that he thought the same thing. Whether he did or not, I will probably never know, but it is one of those memories that makes me cringe. As for the other men in my life one blamed me for his being gay telling me that if I had been more of a woman he would not be attracted to men. Another, I simply was never thin enough and therefore he had to continually ogle other woman in front of me, as to make me perfectly aware of what I was not. Another one simply explained that he needed two women to make him happy and, honest to God, told me like he was telling me the sky was blue. One left because, and these are his words "You made me want to be a better person and I want to be an asshole". Last but not least, one simply wanted me around until something better came along. He wasn't quite so blunt but said enough for me to get the picture.
Oddly enough, though these memories came back very quickly when I began to ponder what my dream was trying to tell me, these are memories that I never brought forward and or for that matter believed played a role in my daily life in any way. Am I holding on to the weight because somewhere in my psyche I believe that being more than is being bigger than? Even though I am in the healthiest relationship I have ever been in, am I unconsciously waiting for the other shoe to drop? Somewhere deep down do I believe that other people believe that I am less than? And worse have I sabotaged my psyche into believing my husband believes me to be less than and therefore I feel the need to be more than? Or am I holding out unconsciously hoping that my husband will continue to love me unconditionally no matter how big I am? Do I believe that being more than will ensure unconditional love? Once I acknowledge and accept that I am enough will the weight simply melt away? Can acknowledging this be the answer to my prayers? Or do I need to completely re-frame my thinking, consciously and unconsciously? Geez I am exhausted!!!!!!!!!! I think I will sit with this for a while.
Second I had to ponder why on earth I felt invisible. I do know that I would much rather be heard than seen. I now attribute that to the fact that I apparently felt less than and did not want to burden anyone with my presence. I use the word felt as in past tense, thus begins my journey to being, perfect, whole and loved. Yay me! I know as a child, the 4th of 5, for my mother's sanity it was necessary to be seen and not heard while company was over. Can you imagine 5 screaming kids, "mommy can I please, please, please…mommy, mommy, mommy." Personally the mere thought of it sends chills up my spine. I gave birth to one child-he is now 23 does that tell you anything? The adult me assumes I took the whole seen and not heard thing literally; due to the fact that I would rather eat hot peppers upside down than speak in front of a group of people. Don’t get me wrong I have done it, but hated it and yes I fantasized about eating hot peppers upside down instead of having 100 of sets of eyes on me. I don’t really know a lot about what number child you are and how it affects your life, but I was number 4 and I know that I probably got away with a lot more than the older kids. I do remember my oldest sister and brother were hell bent on pissing mom off and when all hell broke loose I made myself invisible and fast! I was the kid who made sure I blended in, so as to not make trouble. I had it easier than my older siblings because I learned from them what not to do. I truly remember making conscious decisions and mental notes of what not to do. They were teenagers while I was still in the impressionable years so they were just being normal rebellious teenagers; I was getting the impression to stay under the radar.
As for being invisible, I can’t help but think that if I can clear the old belief structure that I am less than, being invisible will not be an issue. If I am no longer concerned with being less than, will being invisible matter? Is being invisible my protection from being less than? If I hold on to the weight, is it my way of pointing out the obvious so that nothing else is seen? Or again, am I holding on to the weight so that it is impossible not to see me?
This is a lot to ponder; and quite honestly it sounds like a lot of work. So, when I ask the question “How much weight should emotion carry?” in a perfect world it would hold none at all. But since we live in a less than perfect world I believe that it does indeed carry a lot more weight than we should allow it to. Should I allow what other people think to matter? Should I judge myself by how others may or may not judge me? Should I continue to hold on to weight because I feel the need to be more than to anyone other than myself or more than invisible to the world?
The other day I was talking to my mom on the phone, I was explaining the dream to her and what I thought the dream meant. I was explaining that in order to re-frame my thinking I would need to write down some affirmations to say everyday. She said, just say “I am as God created me”, it is what Jesus said in the “Course of Miracles” teachings. It seems so simple but how many of us believe that we are as God has created us? Tall, short, skinny, fat, we are as God created us, and when all is said and done we are spirit living the human experience.
As for me, I have work to do! I need to ASMO! Accept, Surrender and Move On, from the old belief structure. Accept that the past is the past and I need to love myself unconditionally, thereby negating the need to be more than to anyone but myself. Surrender to the fact that the old belief played a pivotal role in my life, good, bad or indifferent and that there were important lessons learned. Move On to the new belief structure, being less than or more than is not as important as just simply being…….as God created me!
Love, Light and Angel Blessing
Theri
First I had to ponder the idea that I felt like I was never enough. I had to dig and figure out why that particular emotion would be residing within my psyche. I have never been one to willingly go digging deep inside my psyche, preferring to clear this kind of stuff unconsciously. I discovered much to my amazement that there were indeed times in my life that I felt like I was not enough. Whether it was because I was not thin enough, pretty enough or woman enough, I have allowed the men in my life, with the exception of my unconditionally loving husband make me feel like I simply was not enough. I absolutely believe that it was not always intentional. I remember very clearly one day I was getting ready to go out, I could not have been more than 16 years old and as is my life I had been dieting. My Dad who was one of the kindest, sweetest men ever to grace the planet was passing by my room, he poked his head in and said "Wow if you lose any more weight I am not going to let you out of the house". The adult me knows without question that he was simply giving me a compliment, his way of telling me I looked nice. What I heard was "Wow, if you lose any more weight I won't be able to let you out of the house....because then someone might look at you", in my mind he meant that it was safe for me to go out that night because no one would look at me because I was fat.
Whether it was because I was not thin enough, pretty enough or woman enough I simply allowed men to make me feel less than. The men that I had relationships with felt it necessary to express their feelings regarding what they perceived were my inadequacies. I believe it began with my older brother who stood by and said nothing when his friends made fun of the fact that I was big busted, not petite and in high school kind of goofy. This, of course, instilled the belief in me that he thought the same thing. Whether he did or not, I will probably never know, but it is one of those memories that makes me cringe. As for the other men in my life one blamed me for his being gay telling me that if I had been more of a woman he would not be attracted to men. Another, I simply was never thin enough and therefore he had to continually ogle other woman in front of me, as to make me perfectly aware of what I was not. Another one simply explained that he needed two women to make him happy and, honest to God, told me like he was telling me the sky was blue. One left because, and these are his words "You made me want to be a better person and I want to be an asshole". Last but not least, one simply wanted me around until something better came along. He wasn't quite so blunt but said enough for me to get the picture.
Oddly enough, though these memories came back very quickly when I began to ponder what my dream was trying to tell me, these are memories that I never brought forward and or for that matter believed played a role in my daily life in any way. Am I holding on to the weight because somewhere in my psyche I believe that being more than is being bigger than? Even though I am in the healthiest relationship I have ever been in, am I unconsciously waiting for the other shoe to drop? Somewhere deep down do I believe that other people believe that I am less than? And worse have I sabotaged my psyche into believing my husband believes me to be less than and therefore I feel the need to be more than? Or am I holding out unconsciously hoping that my husband will continue to love me unconditionally no matter how big I am? Do I believe that being more than will ensure unconditional love? Once I acknowledge and accept that I am enough will the weight simply melt away? Can acknowledging this be the answer to my prayers? Or do I need to completely re-frame my thinking, consciously and unconsciously? Geez I am exhausted!!!!!!!!!! I think I will sit with this for a while.
Second I had to ponder why on earth I felt invisible. I do know that I would much rather be heard than seen. I now attribute that to the fact that I apparently felt less than and did not want to burden anyone with my presence. I use the word felt as in past tense, thus begins my journey to being, perfect, whole and loved. Yay me! I know as a child, the 4th of 5, for my mother's sanity it was necessary to be seen and not heard while company was over. Can you imagine 5 screaming kids, "mommy can I please, please, please…mommy, mommy, mommy." Personally the mere thought of it sends chills up my spine. I gave birth to one child-he is now 23 does that tell you anything? The adult me assumes I took the whole seen and not heard thing literally; due to the fact that I would rather eat hot peppers upside down than speak in front of a group of people. Don’t get me wrong I have done it, but hated it and yes I fantasized about eating hot peppers upside down instead of having 100 of sets of eyes on me. I don’t really know a lot about what number child you are and how it affects your life, but I was number 4 and I know that I probably got away with a lot more than the older kids. I do remember my oldest sister and brother were hell bent on pissing mom off and when all hell broke loose I made myself invisible and fast! I was the kid who made sure I blended in, so as to not make trouble. I had it easier than my older siblings because I learned from them what not to do. I truly remember making conscious decisions and mental notes of what not to do. They were teenagers while I was still in the impressionable years so they were just being normal rebellious teenagers; I was getting the impression to stay under the radar.
As for being invisible, I can’t help but think that if I can clear the old belief structure that I am less than, being invisible will not be an issue. If I am no longer concerned with being less than, will being invisible matter? Is being invisible my protection from being less than? If I hold on to the weight, is it my way of pointing out the obvious so that nothing else is seen? Or again, am I holding on to the weight so that it is impossible not to see me?
This is a lot to ponder; and quite honestly it sounds like a lot of work. So, when I ask the question “How much weight should emotion carry?” in a perfect world it would hold none at all. But since we live in a less than perfect world I believe that it does indeed carry a lot more weight than we should allow it to. Should I allow what other people think to matter? Should I judge myself by how others may or may not judge me? Should I continue to hold on to weight because I feel the need to be more than to anyone other than myself or more than invisible to the world?
The other day I was talking to my mom on the phone, I was explaining the dream to her and what I thought the dream meant. I was explaining that in order to re-frame my thinking I would need to write down some affirmations to say everyday. She said, just say “I am as God created me”, it is what Jesus said in the “Course of Miracles” teachings. It seems so simple but how many of us believe that we are as God has created us? Tall, short, skinny, fat, we are as God created us, and when all is said and done we are spirit living the human experience.
As for me, I have work to do! I need to ASMO! Accept, Surrender and Move On, from the old belief structure. Accept that the past is the past and I need to love myself unconditionally, thereby negating the need to be more than to anyone but myself. Surrender to the fact that the old belief played a pivotal role in my life, good, bad or indifferent and that there were important lessons learned. Move On to the new belief structure, being less than or more than is not as important as just simply being…….as God created me!
Love, Light and Angel Blessing
Theri
Tuesday, May 27, 2008
If You Are Not Grounded, Can You Find Your Way Home?
How important is it to be grounded? and what does being grounded mean to you?I will attempt to help out with the answer to that question. A while ago I attended a Sound Therapy class in California with my sister. In this class we learned how to determine what tones (tones relate to Chakras) a person is; overactive, underactive or completely missing by using a tuning device. This in turn gave us some insight into whether our Chakras were balanced or not. We worked with different classmates in order to get familiar with doing this type of voice analysis. After this was done the teacher looked over each of the analysis we were given. Three different people did my analysis and three different times it came out pretty much the same; with the exception of the one my sister did for me. Apparently my sister and I were trying so hard to compensate for each others weaknesses our readings for each other came out a bit skewed. When the teacher looked over mine she said "Wow Theri if you were anymore grounded you would be part of the ground". It seems I had very strong lower tones C, C#, D, D# which are the characteristics of a very grounded person because the lower tones refer to the Root Chakra (Root-grounded not terribly complicated). My other tones were represented however they were considerably less prominent. If anyone would like more information regarding the Voice analysis process let me know I can send you a brochure.
I learned very early on that if my feet were not firmly on the ground I simply could not get anything done, be it physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally or for that matter psychically. I did not always know that meant being grounded. I have always been a practical person; and for me being practical was tantamount to survival. If someone who knows me were to describe me they would say I am logical, that I don't see things through rose colored glasses and that I am very down to earth. If you think about the profession I am in, it does not make much sense at all at first glance. How can someone who is so rooted/grounded in the "root Chara" (the root Chakra relates to the earth element, governs all elimination, the survival instinct) have her head so high up in the clouds? Believe me you are not the first one to wonder this, I myself pondered that very thing for a very long time.
I have learned at the "University of My life" that if a person is not grounded, everything will be a struggle for them. You must have an anchor to hold on to so that the road home will always be in front of you. For me, if I am even slightly ungrounded (which does happen occasionally) my thoughts are confused, I feel spacey, my intuition gets mucky, my dreams are peppered with inconsistancies, and I can't concentrate on anything. It is a tremendously uncomfortable feeling. Grounding refers to so much more than your Root Chakra, grounding balances and grounds all your Chakras. Each morning I have a grounding ritual so that I balance myself for the day. At the time of my voice analysis I had very strong Root Chakra tones because of this, my other Chakras, unbeknownst to me, were a bit cloudy ie my intuition were not as sharp, my insight took longer to get through, everything just seemed like it was a lot more work. Upon discovery of this, one of the things I work on is keeping ALL my Chakras balanced, not just the lower ones, With this has come clarity. So you see there is a such thing as having too much of a good thing!
Some of my dearest friends are all higher tones with absolutely no Root Chakra whatsoever. For them life is a struggle because the they are not at all grounded. Others have recognized this and have taken the steps to ground themselves daily. You see, it is not that you cannot go through life ungrounded; because logic tells us we can. However, if you are not grounded, everything will seem just out of your grasp. You can't build a house without a foundation. You can't pour water into a glass without the glass. If you are at sea and you do not throw your anchor overboard to anchor your boat for the night there is a darn good chance that you will not be in the same place come morning and there is an even higher possibility that you will have no idea where you are and become disoriented. That is the same thing that happens when you do not ground yourself; it is easy to become lost and disoriented.
So if you are not grounded, can you find your way home? Think of it this way, if you are grounded and balanced, it is a straight shot because your roots are attached, if you are not it can be a rough and tumble road over unnecessarily obstacle ridden terrain. You will find that once you start grounding yourself you will feel clearer, sharper, more intuitive, more connected and altogether calmer. There is a sense of security that comes with being connected. Connected can mean many things; for me being connected means being connected to source, to all that is. It means being connected to the light within you that is God. It means being connected to more than just the human that my spirit resides in. It means being connected with all that is possible.
The following is a quick grounding exercise that you can do in five minutes every morning. Do this for at least five days and I assure you you will notice the difference. note: this can also be modified anytime of the day that you feel you need an anchor.
Visualize that there are roots growing from the bottom of your feet, they burrow into Mother Earth easily, as they move deeper into the earth the roots get thicker, wider and stronger. They continue to grow until they reach the center of the earth. Once they reach the center of the earth there is a beautiful crystal, a crystal so pure that you can see every color imaginable dancing within it. The roots wrap around this crystal sending pure magnetic light up the roots and into your feet. The light continues to fill your feet, your ankles, your shins, your knees, your thights, your hips, your waist, your torso, your arms, your neck, your face until it finally gets to a funnel that is sitting directly over your crown. This light enters the funnel and fans out into the heavens where it meets with an even more magnificent and brighter light. The two lights combine and enter back into the funnel and down through your crown, completely entering every part of your body, see it, sense it, feel it, it is your reality. You are now completely grounded and completely balanced. (I do this while I am in the shower, the sensation of the water flowing down my body helps to visualize the light streaming through my body.)
I wish you a wonderfully grounded and balanced day.
Love, Light and Angel Blessings Theri
I learned very early on that if my feet were not firmly on the ground I simply could not get anything done, be it physically, mentally, spiritually, emotionally or for that matter psychically. I did not always know that meant being grounded. I have always been a practical person; and for me being practical was tantamount to survival. If someone who knows me were to describe me they would say I am logical, that I don't see things through rose colored glasses and that I am very down to earth. If you think about the profession I am in, it does not make much sense at all at first glance. How can someone who is so rooted/grounded in the "root Chara" (the root Chakra relates to the earth element, governs all elimination, the survival instinct) have her head so high up in the clouds? Believe me you are not the first one to wonder this, I myself pondered that very thing for a very long time.
I have learned at the "University of My life" that if a person is not grounded, everything will be a struggle for them. You must have an anchor to hold on to so that the road home will always be in front of you. For me, if I am even slightly ungrounded (which does happen occasionally) my thoughts are confused, I feel spacey, my intuition gets mucky, my dreams are peppered with inconsistancies, and I can't concentrate on anything. It is a tremendously uncomfortable feeling. Grounding refers to so much more than your Root Chakra, grounding balances and grounds all your Chakras. Each morning I have a grounding ritual so that I balance myself for the day. At the time of my voice analysis I had very strong Root Chakra tones because of this, my other Chakras, unbeknownst to me, were a bit cloudy ie my intuition were not as sharp, my insight took longer to get through, everything just seemed like it was a lot more work. Upon discovery of this, one of the things I work on is keeping ALL my Chakras balanced, not just the lower ones, With this has come clarity. So you see there is a such thing as having too much of a good thing!
Some of my dearest friends are all higher tones with absolutely no Root Chakra whatsoever. For them life is a struggle because the they are not at all grounded. Others have recognized this and have taken the steps to ground themselves daily. You see, it is not that you cannot go through life ungrounded; because logic tells us we can. However, if you are not grounded, everything will seem just out of your grasp. You can't build a house without a foundation. You can't pour water into a glass without the glass. If you are at sea and you do not throw your anchor overboard to anchor your boat for the night there is a darn good chance that you will not be in the same place come morning and there is an even higher possibility that you will have no idea where you are and become disoriented. That is the same thing that happens when you do not ground yourself; it is easy to become lost and disoriented.
So if you are not grounded, can you find your way home? Think of it this way, if you are grounded and balanced, it is a straight shot because your roots are attached, if you are not it can be a rough and tumble road over unnecessarily obstacle ridden terrain. You will find that once you start grounding yourself you will feel clearer, sharper, more intuitive, more connected and altogether calmer. There is a sense of security that comes with being connected. Connected can mean many things; for me being connected means being connected to source, to all that is. It means being connected to the light within you that is God. It means being connected to more than just the human that my spirit resides in. It means being connected with all that is possible.
The following is a quick grounding exercise that you can do in five minutes every morning. Do this for at least five days and I assure you you will notice the difference. note: this can also be modified anytime of the day that you feel you need an anchor.
Visualize that there are roots growing from the bottom of your feet, they burrow into Mother Earth easily, as they move deeper into the earth the roots get thicker, wider and stronger. They continue to grow until they reach the center of the earth. Once they reach the center of the earth there is a beautiful crystal, a crystal so pure that you can see every color imaginable dancing within it. The roots wrap around this crystal sending pure magnetic light up the roots and into your feet. The light continues to fill your feet, your ankles, your shins, your knees, your thights, your hips, your waist, your torso, your arms, your neck, your face until it finally gets to a funnel that is sitting directly over your crown. This light enters the funnel and fans out into the heavens where it meets with an even more magnificent and brighter light. The two lights combine and enter back into the funnel and down through your crown, completely entering every part of your body, see it, sense it, feel it, it is your reality. You are now completely grounded and completely balanced. (I do this while I am in the shower, the sensation of the water flowing down my body helps to visualize the light streaming through my body.)
I wish you a wonderfully grounded and balanced day.
Love, Light and Angel Blessings Theri
Monday, May 26, 2008
Does Believing Make it So?
When my husband and I first became friends (we were best friends before the relationship began) he was rather reluctant to believe in my "gifts". Which of course was fine because I have no interest in converting anyone to my way of believing or for that matter convincing anyone that I have been blessed with psychic gifts. He was introduced to this gift shortly before 911 when I felt very strongly that I needed to get our boss home from a business trip he had been on on 9/10 instead of 9/11. Of course at the time I did not know why, but learned a long time ago not to question my instincts. My boss had not been anywhere near New York, however had he not flown in the day before the tragedy he would have been grounded and unable to get home for a few days.
There have been many such occurrences since then. Even still he was not completely on board. Eventually after being told by my date, on a double date, we were on that we should be dating one another, we began dating and the rest is history. Though my husband never questioned me as to why I thought this or that, and always listened intently when I would explain the bizarre happenings in my life, it was the next two events that I believe solidified to him that I was the real deal.
First we were trekking across the country on our way to set up residence in MN, on the way we stopped to visit his cousin Nicole and his Auntie who was visiting from MA in Colorado Springs, CO. It was the first time I was meeting any of his family other than the little guys so I was a bit nervous. It turns out that was unwarranted because they embraced me and welcomed me as family immediately. We carried our baggage to the room we would be staying in, I asked Ted if he knew his cousin was pregnant and that it was a boy? He of course said no and we went about our visit.
The next morning Ted had gotten up before me (nothing new about that) which gave Ted and Nicole time to chat before everyone got up. Nicole informed him that she was pregnant, not missing a beat Ted told her that he knew because I had told him the night before. He then told Nicole that it would be a boy. Nicolas was born the following April.
Second, In November of 2006 my father-in-law was in a car accident. He was banged up but okay, thank God. I had that knowingness that he should not drive again; of course me being me, I voiced my concern to the family and explained that it was more than just a worried concern. Dad is just a tad stubborn and would have none of it. Needless to say 5 months later he was in another accident, again banged up but okay.
Now you have to understand that my husband was raised Greek Orthodox and my mother in-law is still very active in the church, I was pretty sure the church would not be thrilled with my abilities. So to have their son married to a woman with a tremendously active sixth sense had to be a bit unsettling. I should add at this point that my husbands family lives in Peabody, MA which is just outside of Salem, MA (do you see the irony of it all). My sister in-law lives in Danvers MA which is old Salem Village where the actual witch trials were held (I know, I know, pretty bizarre). My mother-in-law was tremendously trusting and simply went with the flow and, to her credit, accepted me sixth sense and all. My Sister in-law jumped on board immediately. However, I am pretty sure that my father in-law still thinks I am a little bit off in the head. After that my husband simply believed - as does most of his family because they do call and ask if the psychic in the family has any insight on this that or the other. Unfortunately for me it does not work that way, if I am suppose to know it and share I get the information if not I don't, this tends to be tremendously frustrating for me, but it is what it is. I could go on and on about all the validations in my life, but to keep this less than 1000 pages I won't.
As my Website declares I have quite a large tool box of gifts, one of the things I have come to rely on is believing. I have had many a client sit across from me during a session and say "Geez I hope this, or I hope that". I ask them if they believe it can happen or do they hope it will happen. Without exception it takes them off guard. This now brings us to the conversation my husband and I had a few days ago on our way home from dinner. My husband puts together horse racing partnerships and manages them http://www.grevelisracing.com/ One of our horses was set to race on Sunday 5/25 at Canterbury Park. His name is Fizzy Pop. He was talking about the race and how much he wanted Fizzy to win. I asked him if believed Fizzy could win or was he hoping he would win. I told him that if he did not believe he would win, it was likely he would not. He was quiet for a few minutes and said that he believed he could win. I then went on to explain how sensitive horses are and that they pick up on human vibrations, and if Fizzy felt the vibration as being anything other than positive, the results would be anything but positive.
Of course we have had this type of conversation in past so I was not saying anything new. (As a side note last fall I had the opportunity to participate in some equine therapy, it was one of the most incredible experiences of my life. I highly recommend it to everyone. If you would like some more information please let me know.) That evening my husband sat down and blogged about our conversation http://www.grevelisracing.blogspot.com/
As each partner showed up on Sunday I asked them each if they believed Fizzy Pop could win or if they just hoped he would win. Each thought about it and replied that they believed he could win. Which of course was the answer I was looking for. As I predicted Fizzy Pop won easily that day. I can tell you with absolute certainty that my husband and his partners believe that believing is key. What you put out in the universe will come back to you good or bad. I told my husband that It should not matter whether Fizzy Pop is racing the best of the best or the worst of the worst, put doubt out in the universe, the universe will deliver.
Did Fizzy Pop win because we believed? I truly believe he did. So my challenge to you is to believe, see it, feel it, sense it and it will be your reality. The universe will reward you.
Love, light and Angel Blessings Theri
There have been many such occurrences since then. Even still he was not completely on board. Eventually after being told by my date, on a double date, we were on that we should be dating one another, we began dating and the rest is history. Though my husband never questioned me as to why I thought this or that, and always listened intently when I would explain the bizarre happenings in my life, it was the next two events that I believe solidified to him that I was the real deal.
First we were trekking across the country on our way to set up residence in MN, on the way we stopped to visit his cousin Nicole and his Auntie who was visiting from MA in Colorado Springs, CO. It was the first time I was meeting any of his family other than the little guys so I was a bit nervous. It turns out that was unwarranted because they embraced me and welcomed me as family immediately. We carried our baggage to the room we would be staying in, I asked Ted if he knew his cousin was pregnant and that it was a boy? He of course said no and we went about our visit.
The next morning Ted had gotten up before me (nothing new about that) which gave Ted and Nicole time to chat before everyone got up. Nicole informed him that she was pregnant, not missing a beat Ted told her that he knew because I had told him the night before. He then told Nicole that it would be a boy. Nicolas was born the following April.
Second, In November of 2006 my father-in-law was in a car accident. He was banged up but okay, thank God. I had that knowingness that he should not drive again; of course me being me, I voiced my concern to the family and explained that it was more than just a worried concern. Dad is just a tad stubborn and would have none of it. Needless to say 5 months later he was in another accident, again banged up but okay.
Now you have to understand that my husband was raised Greek Orthodox and my mother in-law is still very active in the church, I was pretty sure the church would not be thrilled with my abilities. So to have their son married to a woman with a tremendously active sixth sense had to be a bit unsettling. I should add at this point that my husbands family lives in Peabody, MA which is just outside of Salem, MA (do you see the irony of it all). My sister in-law lives in Danvers MA which is old Salem Village where the actual witch trials were held (I know, I know, pretty bizarre). My mother-in-law was tremendously trusting and simply went with the flow and, to her credit, accepted me sixth sense and all. My Sister in-law jumped on board immediately. However, I am pretty sure that my father in-law still thinks I am a little bit off in the head. After that my husband simply believed - as does most of his family because they do call and ask if the psychic in the family has any insight on this that or the other. Unfortunately for me it does not work that way, if I am suppose to know it and share I get the information if not I don't, this tends to be tremendously frustrating for me, but it is what it is. I could go on and on about all the validations in my life, but to keep this less than 1000 pages I won't.
As my Website declares I have quite a large tool box of gifts, one of the things I have come to rely on is believing. I have had many a client sit across from me during a session and say "Geez I hope this, or I hope that". I ask them if they believe it can happen or do they hope it will happen. Without exception it takes them off guard. This now brings us to the conversation my husband and I had a few days ago on our way home from dinner. My husband puts together horse racing partnerships and manages them http://www.grevelisracing.com/ One of our horses was set to race on Sunday 5/25 at Canterbury Park. His name is Fizzy Pop. He was talking about the race and how much he wanted Fizzy to win. I asked him if believed Fizzy could win or was he hoping he would win. I told him that if he did not believe he would win, it was likely he would not. He was quiet for a few minutes and said that he believed he could win. I then went on to explain how sensitive horses are and that they pick up on human vibrations, and if Fizzy felt the vibration as being anything other than positive, the results would be anything but positive.
Of course we have had this type of conversation in past so I was not saying anything new. (As a side note last fall I had the opportunity to participate in some equine therapy, it was one of the most incredible experiences of my life. I highly recommend it to everyone. If you would like some more information please let me know.) That evening my husband sat down and blogged about our conversation http://www.grevelisracing.blogspot.com/
As each partner showed up on Sunday I asked them each if they believed Fizzy Pop could win or if they just hoped he would win. Each thought about it and replied that they believed he could win. Which of course was the answer I was looking for. As I predicted Fizzy Pop won easily that day. I can tell you with absolute certainty that my husband and his partners believe that believing is key. What you put out in the universe will come back to you good or bad. I told my husband that It should not matter whether Fizzy Pop is racing the best of the best or the worst of the worst, put doubt out in the universe, the universe will deliver.
Did Fizzy Pop win because we believed? I truly believe he did. So my challenge to you is to believe, see it, feel it, sense it and it will be your reality. The universe will reward you.
Love, light and Angel Blessings Theri
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